Seems the message is a little muddled.
The language is despicable throughout, if your child was to use this language in school, they would likely be suspended much violence, shootings, and a couple of the main characters are living together unmarried.
Others raise money, as well as awareness, for various causes.
But James is initially unwilling to give his future brother-in-law a chance and gives him a very difficult time before he gets to know him.